When I am going through some crisis the last thing I want to hear is "everything will be okay" or "things will work out." It seems like some feeble attempt at predicting a future which is out of our control. It also feels like people are trying to deny me the important grieving/feeling/processing part of the situation. What I want to hear are statements that affirm how terrible the thing is: "that sucks," "I'm sorry," "you shouldn't have to deal with this." I got in a big argument with a friend yesterday about this (sorry to that friend for the mess that became). It made me realize that maybe other people really do find comfort in such phrases as "you'll get through this" and "it'll be okay." Any thoughts?
| December 4, 2004 08:09am | 
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I'm a "that sucks", "or "look on the bright side, the sky didn't fall in yet" kinda person, but it all depends on who I'm talking to. Many people like the reassurance of "not to worry, it'll all work out", which is the phrase I probably would have used with you since I don't know you well enough to give you the "shit happens, move on" talk.
Now I know.
Lynne | December 4, 2004 9:02AM
i guess i never really thought about it. i don't like meaningless platitudes, but i don't mind heart felt "gee, better luck next time". overall, i'm mostly a "life ain't fair, so suck it up". my most favorite statement is "get used to dissappointment"
joat | December 4, 2004 11:35PM