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The Bathroom Incident: A Follow-Up Story

Father-in-law apologized for the event later that evening. Cool. Kudos to him.

The next morning (Christmas) Guy gave k a hug and asked how she was doing after the previous night's event. She said that she was really mad. He pulled away and said something like "Fine. Be that way" and stormed off. What a loser.

He's been even more grumpy since. He was Mr. Short-Temper while passing out the presents screaming at the dogs, cursing when his coffee got knocked over, and generally radiating angst.

On the positive side, the bathroom incident and Guy's subsequent behavior really helped me to be less insecure about trying to make things work with the family and let everyone own their own issues. No matter what family obligation, no matter how much I want to make a friendship work, no matter how much I want to honor k's family... I'm not going to being belittled, abused, or disrespected. If Guy wants more from me, then he's gonna have to get over himself first.

Because of this new perspective things have been less stressful for me. It's still really emotionally draining, but I am holding my own much better.